5 Rules to Arguments
BE MAD AT ME, but don’t insult me. No name calling, shaming and making fun of. Anger is NOT a ticket to speak carelessly.
BE MAD AT ME, but tell me why you are upset. Don’t just assume I should know and don’t say “I told you a million times!”.
BE MAD AT ME, but don’t broadcast it to the world. No post it on social media, don’t tell your friends. Keep it to ourselves to figure it out.
BE MAD AT ME, but don’t forget the many good things about me. Remember the attributes of me that you admire.
BE MAD AT ME, but also remember all the times I have forgiven you.
Paul Lucas is a marriage and relationship counsellor in Burlington, Ontario. He helps couples learn to fight fair but encouraging these and other rules that will make the fights more productive. Paul has clients see him from all over Ontario, either in person or through video. Paul has been working with couples consistently since 2016. He is an advanced Relational Life Therapist, Gottman trained and PE certified.